Friendship.
J.R. Hartley
Hello fair reader, the day i write this is sunday, almost ten days since my last post and i think that i should update my blog, i know also that this is not my best work but i will try to make future posts better and i have not written a title for this post yet due to me having no idea about what to write, not to worry i am sure it will come to me as each key press brings me closer to the end of this paragraph
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Even you friendly brits should give some feedback on the content on this blog i would very much appreciate it :D
Right i have decided that this post will be about the delicate nature of friendships.
Firstly i would think that friendship is a key part of what i would call the 'human spark' that little thing that separates us from the animals, not being an expert in zoology i wont go into detail about what science says but rather just this little thing called the human spark, i think social interaction is a big part of it.
Friendship is lovely, it just is, it can appear in many forms but overall it just benefits you both in immense ways. Now i am in getting in the position of life where i have very few people i would designate as friends purely because well, i don't like people, but in the past i would say i have had many close friends and from that i can write about the dynamics of friendship.
Friendship morphs our mindset and opinions like no other, sure there are family members but they're relatives and you can't choose those, you choose your friends because you have similar interests and opinions or even you just have to spend a lot of time together due to circumstances beyond your control IE you work with them or you have all your lessons with them, and then this time spent together evolves into friendship and all is well. You could argue partners shape us, i would have to disagree with this as no woman could ever stop me loving David Bowie, or change my political stance. Partners merely compliment our beliefs and values where as a friend helps declare and construct them.
I often like to think of friendship as a fine claret or Bordeaux, beautiful things that mature with age and get better with each passing year, but if not kept in the right conditions it can turn to horrid acidic vinegar, too foul to drink. Yes but friends are the ones who i should expect in times of need are the supportive ones, true friends really help, they say its a friend who will bail you out of jail, but a true friend will help you bury a body. and then make jokes about it on the drive home!
This article really is a mute point, everyone knows how important good friendships are but i will now talk about the odd friendships that i have experienced
Well i cannot go into major detail as i still have to speak with this person but nonetheless i shall carry on, there is a boy or a girl, lets call them Alex, now Alex has been a good friend of mine for years but of late as their friends stopped talking to them she or he has spent alot of time with me telling me all about his or her problems and just randomly talking for fucking hours on end without stopping or asking me for my opinion or anytime i do open my mouth i get told i am wrong, how oddly annoying, now normally i would tell this person where a good spot to dig a hole to die in is, but unfortuantely circumstacnes dictate that i spend many hours with them a week otherwise i would be alone and frankly i would prefer to be alone but they're on of those creepy people who follow you everywhere. Do you not just hate those people who you're nice to once and then they then think you're friends for life?
Second odd friendship, i once knew a boy who was absolutely lovely, he had family issues, his parents we're going through a messy divorce and all the kids in the family quite liked me, the elder brothers and sisters got on with me very well, so did his sisters of various ages, now fortunately i cut off all contact with them because what i am about to tell you puts goosebumps on my skin even today, so one weekend i am round his house, everyone has gone shopping and i'm just on my laptop, now his youngest sister, who was 17, i was 16 so do not be worrying about ages! came up to me and started well you know, dirty odds and ends, so here we are kissing on a bed then everyone comes home we stop and me and her brother carried on with our evening, so next week i go round his house and he is furious with me, he says i know what i did last week, right i think she must have told she mustnt have said everything but i can lie and get through this, next thing i know he whips out a photograph of me and her getting off, oh god i think evidence, we talk and it turns out he had been keeping a very large collection of photographs of me in a folder. i do not know why. i never want to know what for, but after that i cut off all contact and never spoke to any member of that family again.
Being a male who finds better friendship with females there have been numerous times where i have been stuck in the friendzone, lets face its most men would at least like to have it off with at least 50% of their female friends. But this story is by far the saddest of them all, now this didnt happen to me thankfully but it happened to someone i know and i will always feel immensely sad for them in this story that follows
Now, there was a bloke i knew, lets call him Derrick ( i like that name you see) and he was friends with Sandra for a good 11 years or so, they knew every detail about each other, so to cut a long story short, he lavished her with gifts, told her constantly of her beauty (when there was none AT all and that is by my low standards!!) he drove her everywhere, took her out to chickflics and always to London shopping and always was a gentleman and paid. Derrick loved his car, but at the same time he loved sandra, now she had had a onenight stand with another man called ermmm William, now she claimed to be in love with william and told Derrick of it constantly it drove him mad with anger until last valentines day, 2011, he sold his car and bought two tickets for a Mediterranean holiday he built up the surprise for ages, months in advance, then he told her he was giving her two tickets for this holiday, so sandra thanked him so so so much, all this lovey dovey bollocks, so sandra asked her mother to go but her mum didnt have a passport, being 20 odd sandra was old enough to go alone, but because Derrick had paid she took him only because william and her mother couldnt go, so when they got to their holiday, i think it was the cotsa del sol, she found "true love" and spent half the holiday in another mans room!!!!!
A moment of silence for our fallen comrade there gentlemen!
This is an open question to both ladies and gentlemen, have you had anything go awry like this? or any odd friendships?
Please comment!
Enjoy the week a head fair reader and allow me to leave you with a quote from Frasier;
"Daphne: Oh, come on now, Dr Crane. It's not like men
have never used sex to get what they want. "
"Frasier: How can we possibly *use* sex to get what we
want? Sex *is* what we want"
